The 2 Most Common Sexual Concerns In Mature Women + How To Address Them

Let's talk about sex: While many people remain sexually active well into their older years, studies have revealed that following menopause and as women age, they're increasingly likely to experience painful sex and lack of desire. And unfortunately, these topics carry a lot of stigma—but it's time to change that.

According to Kingsberg, painful sex and lack of desire are two of the most common issues that women deal with during menopause and beyond. "Many women believe that sexual dysfunction is a natural part of aging," she says. "Part of that is true, but that doesn't mean we can't do something about it. Women color their hair to look younger and go to the gym to feel better. But when it comes to sexual concerns, most simply live with them without asking whether help is available."

Addressing any concerns with your doctor will allow you to create a path to care that can treat a lack of sexual interest or pain during sex, but taking your sexual well-being into your own hands is necessary to enjoy sex well into your 70s and 80s (as studies1 suggest many women hope to do).

For more tangible advice, OB/GYN Susan Hardwick-Smith, M.D., previously told mbg, "As we experience hormonal and physical changes in midlife, vaginal intercourse becomes increasingly difficult, if not agonizingly impossible. There are countless other ways to express intimate physical contact—the only criteria is that it creates pleasure for both parties." She suggests focusing on cuddling, touching, and showing displays of sexual intimacy in your day-to-day that will boost connection and make you feel closer to your partner.