How To Choose A Healing Crystal That's Right For You

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Crystals have captured the human imagination for thousands of years. Atlantis is said to have powered machines with crystals and to have even etched their records on them. Crystals have captured contemporary imagination as well (remember The Dark Crystal?). Now we see crystals in many quintessential NYC spaces – from the world of yoga to that of high-fashion.

So why do we love crystals so much? Well, first off, they are just kind of, um, beautiful. Crystals are eye-candy. I had a teacher tell me, "It's a very powerful thing to touch something that we find beautiful." While I won't get into all of the implications of this idea generally, I will when it comes to crystals…

Touching a crystal is a gift, partly due to its visual power. But the energy of a crystal is a gift onto itself. So, if you've been feeling left out of the crystal craze, if you think crystals are cool and stuff but feel like you "don't get it," then this post is for you ...

A crystal is a consciousness. When you enter a shop that purveys crystals, this is a great attitude to have, for choosing a crystal is kind of like choosing a friend. Finding your crystal mate can feel almost as inexplicable as companionship is.

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The first time I went to a crystal shop, I was a bit overwhelmed. I was with my friend who was going through a breakup, and she had been to the store the week before for some crystal-healing guidance. The store-clerk had suggested a rose quartz (a classic stone for anything heart-related). My friend insisted the stone was making her feel supported, so she brought me along to learn more. I had to try this.

At the time, I decided it would be best to look for a stone to keep me feeling calm and grounded and confident at my new job. The lady at the desk suggested tiger's eye for courage, hematite for grounding, and citrine for a positive outlook. I thought, Whoa, this is really f*&#%ng cool.

Before I left, I also decided to choose a mystery crystal. This would be a crystal I knew absolutely noting about, but one that just called out to me. After looking at and touching many, many stones, I ended up with a bloodstone.

It fit, like a new friend who you feel like you've known for your entire life. Plus, bloodstone happens to be the stone for Aries (my sign)! With it's ability to temper worries, give emotional strength and support the physical body, I knew this would also be my perfect going to battle at work stone (oh yeah, did I mention it was a stone first used by Greek warriors to protect them in battle and heal their wounds?).

This intuitive method is my favorite way to choose a crystal. Though I've since refined the process into the following, very simple three step "program." Have fun with it …

1. Call upon the crystal that's right for YOU.

Put your hands together in prayer and ask for the crystal that will work for your highest good. If you don't feel comfortable doing this in the shop, you can just feel your hands and ask for the same wisdom.

2. Feel (literally) with an open heart.

Take your non-dominant hand and pass it over the crystals, waiting to feel a subtle tug from one of the stones. You may end up with three or four (I know I do!). If this is the case, move on to the next step,

3. Experiment!

Try each crystal out one by one. Their energies will be different (one may feel really deep like a shattuckite, another more gentle like an amethyst ), so choose depending on your mood. And, of course, be open to bringing home more than one.

Another popular way to choose a crystal is to look up a crystal for what you want to heal. A great place to start with this is seeking the crystal for the body part or chakra that you think needs some extra love. Here's a very brief guide to the seven chakras, for the specific benefit of crystal-choosing:

  • First Chakra (perineum, base of spine): protection, safety and comfort in your environment
  • Second Chakra (low belly, sacrum): abundance, power, sexuality, courage
  • Third Chakra (waist, solar plexus, bottom of the ribcage): inner-child-awakening, spontaneity, fun, joy, the ego, the will
  • Fourth Chakra (heart, chest): love, self-love, acceptance, compassion for self and others
  • Fifth Chakra (throat): communication, self-trust, channeling divine information
  • Sixth Chakra (third eye, between the eyebrows): intuition, ability to meditate, mental purity and clarity
  • Seventh Chakra (top of the head): This is the accumulation of all of the chakras and where we go up to contact the divine.

When you go into the shop, you can request to see some stones for a particular chakra, so you have some direction. Also, if you learn that a particular stone works a particular chakra, it's great to put that stone on its associated body part (a second chakra stone on the low belly is bliss).

The crystal for you may not be the most beautiful one in the store, or even the most beautiful of the bunch that all cost the same amount. And to me, like a lover who really grows on you, that crystal becomes the most beautiful in the bunch, as I behold it and hold it.


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