There have been a few times in my life that I experienced what I refer to as a "light-bulb" moment. It happens when something becomes so crystal clear and illuminated in my mind, it literally feels like a light bulb has been turned on in a dark room.
A while ago, I had a light-bulb moment regarding my self-care routine. It transformed me in a way I couldn't have foreseen, and the change extended to my entire family.
We've all heard flight attendants instruct us to put our oxygen mask on before those that we are caring for. Every single time I fly, I silently thank the airline for the gentle reminder. It never gets old.
As a young mom, I thought that putting everyone else’s needs before my own meant that I was proving my love to my family. Giving up everything I loved in order to give more to everyone else was what good moms did, right? Until I started to fall apart. When I put myself last, my family got the exhausted, depleted, and overwhelmed version of Mommy. Not my best look.
We can't share what we don’t have, right? If we don’t have reserves of energy that keep us balanced and centered, we can’t give our best to our children, our spouses, our extended family, or our jobs.
As I slowly gave myself an inch or two here and there to prioritize my own needs, I became more patient, present, and joyful. I was able to bring the best version of myself to everyone that I cared about.
It didn't take much. You can do it, too. Here are the five tweaks that got me from hot mess to mindful mom: