Get organic veggies, make overnight oats, get on the yoga mat, journal, meditate, lift some weights, connect with my partner erotically. Oh, and I should get out for that 10k, fit in a massage, do Pilates, and make sure I down a superfood smoothie. I'm overwhelmed and I haven't even done anything yet.
Let's be clear: These are all classic examples of what we call "First-World problems." I'm deeply fortunate that I have the luxury to focus on these kinds of self-actualizing tasks.
But that makes it all the more regrettable that we put so much pressure on ourselves that even self-care becomes hard work. It's indicative of a greater human issue, one that’s universal. Turning self-care into a test of our ability to "do it all" is just an intensely distilled manifestation of being hard on yourself. Just like anything put under unrelenting pressure (and irradiated with a high dose of perfectionism, or underlying fear) self-care can mutate into an overwhelming to-do list that’s no longer about caring at all.