How To Make Self-Love A Spiritual Experience
As a professional intuitive, I've found that nothing can increase our inherent powers to manifest the lives we want like self-love. While everyone else is rattling on about romantic love in February, here are some ideas for how to concentrate on your relationship with yourself this month:
1. Take yourself out for a date.
Being able to enjoy your own company is a great sign of self-love. If you're not used to going out on your own or feel intimidated by the idea, that's natural! The trick is to pick your favorite spots and activities. Go to your favorite restaurant with a great podcast or book and spend a few hours in excellent company lingering over a delicious meal. Head to your local bookstore to browse and then have a yummy hot drink at the cafe. Is there a film you've been dying to see, but none of your friends are that excited about it? Take yourself, and splurge on that popcorn you probably shouldn't eat. Maybe there is an art or museum exhibition you would love to get lost in for a few hours at your own pace. Set out on a nature walk and cue up your favorite inspirational playlist as a companion. Having a date with yourself might be something you start looking forward to and schedule regularly.
Pick a close friend or family member and agree to write a love letter to each other this month.
2. Pamper yourself.
Honor your inner romantic by doing something that's gratifying to the senses. February is the perfect time for a mani or pedi (remember, you can get them with eco-friendly polish) or a massage. You might do something to up your self-care game that you normally would not splurge on, like having a Reiki attunement or a session with an intuitive. Do something special for yourself this month that feels a little indulgent.
3. Ask someone to write you a love letter.
People closest to us can help us on our quest toward self-love by reminding us why we are wonderful. Pick a close friend or family member and agree to write a love letter to each other this month, describing specific character traits you love about each other with examples. You might find out something magical about yourself you weren't even aware of but that other people recognize and appreciate.
4. Accept some aspect of your life or self you've been rejecting.
Is there something about yourself that isn't going to change (not anytime soon, anyway) that really bugs you? Maybe it's a physical limitation or the way a certain body part is shaped. Perhaps you are naturally boisterous and sometimes wonder if you are too much for people, or maybe you are introverted and sometimes question your need to retreat. It might be that you don't want to "own" some aspect of your life, like the industry you started out in or the dynamics of the family you were born into. Pick something that brings up feelings of shame. Working on accepting that aspect of yourself or your experience by realizing that it's part of what makes you the unique person you are today—the amazing person you are today—can help. Here are some steps you can take to get started.
5. Try a mirror-work exercise.
The queen of self-love, the late author and publisher Louise Hay, believed strongly in mirror work. Try this self-help titan's technique: The next time you are alone in the bathroom, look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud, "I love you." It might feel awkward the first time you do it, but with practice this is a powerful ritual. Make eye contact with yourself, and give yourself a mischievous wink or knowing smile! If you have body issues, you can look at your body in the mirror and tell it, "I love you."
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