Do you know what lurks in nearly every family in America, even the happy ones? Fear. Although I may try to hide my fears, the feelings come across, and my kiddos pick up on them anyway. All of us just want to keep our kids safe and give them the best life possible in an all too uncertain world, but here’s the thing: If we don’t balance our focus on safety with the valuable, life-lesson richness of risk-taking, we’re robbing our kids of invaluable growth opportunities. What’s more, the latest research shows that kids with helicopter parents can grow up to feel inadequate and unprepared for adulthood.
"OK, I hear what you’re saying," you might be thinking, "but how do you expect me to let go of all this fear and worry? It’s a scary world out there!"
It’s completely natural for us to worry about our kids, but adding an additional layer of awareness for ourselves can set us free from being enslaved by fear. What’s important to remember is that, under all of this fear and worry, we will find our insecurities, not our children’s. Of course it’s OK—great, in fact—to love and support our children through every phase of their lives, but our fear and anxiety do little for them.