If you do a Google search for "reinvent your sex life" you’ll find articles telling you all you need to do to spice up your love life is wear heels, spend more time naked, or try some different sex toys. And if that doesn’t work then you should try a new position, a new location, or find a new partner. If only our sex lives were that simple. Some articles go a bit deeper and advise you to introduce spontaneity, variety, and novelty into your relationship and your bedroom, which is great—but it's only part of the story.
Conventional advice about reinventing your sexuality often doesn’t account for the fact that each of us is a complicated, dynamic individual whose needs are always evolving and changing. And that’s good news because when it comes to sex, change is a good thing. And reinventing your sex life isn’t that different from reinventing any other area of your life—it takes effort, commitment, time, vulnerability, and an open mind. Here are a few truths you may not have heard before: