There is one factor that will positively affect your child’s physical, psychological, and emotional well-being from infancy through adolescence, one factor that promotes optimal brain development and protects against depression, suicide attempts, addiction, and low self-esteem, and that factor is emotional connectedness. However, we live in a fast-paced, busy society and a culture that often supports parenting methods that make strong emotional connection more difficult to achieve.
Fortunately, there are simple steps we can take toward improving our connectedness and the emotional climate in our homes. When connection is high, there is warmth, trust, and security. Communication is open and positive, family members are affectionate and supportive, and conflict is low. This is the ideal climate for positive outcomes. Here are three ways to connect with your kids without crossing their boundaries, which I detail further in my new positive parenting workbook, slated to release in March: