Recent research into infidelity finds that the act of being unfaithful to a spouse or partner isn't black and white. Actually, it's really complicated—and sometimes couples can even come out of an act of infidelity stronger and more bonded than ever. Regardless of how a couple comes out post-infidelity, in the initial days and weeks following the discovery of a partner's unfaithfulness, it's common for the betrayed party to experience terrible plain. And in these moments, their first thought is often revenge.
"The vengeful heart is not always ready to listen to reason," writes relationship expert Esther Perel in her book The State of Affairs. "Sometimes nothing less than inflicting equal pain will suffice. In the age-old tradition of mirror punishment, retaliatory infidelity ranks high among the common strategies of chastisement."
Revenge may be instinctual, but is it actually beneficial to the healing process? Here's what the experts say.