Your friends probably assume you're exactly the same on your dates as you are when you hang with them. But are you? Most people, especially those who struggle with dating, behave very differently with their friends than they do on dates. So, while your friends will probably tell you that anyone who doesn't like you isn't worth your time (and that's totally true), they don't know (and maybe you don't either) if you're actually being yourself when you go on a date.
A lot of us who don't have a great track record in the dating world become needy, nervous, and tense on dates. So, your friends may not understand why your dates don't work out. Most of us aren’t even aware of all the ways we change when we're dealing with the fear of being rejected, so how could our friends be? Always take this into account when taking dating advice from friends. They don't know what it's like to date you; they just know what it's like to be your friend.
If you want to create change, you can. Just remember that while friends can be great sounding boards and support systems, making a meaningful shift is often most effectively achieved by reading respected books or working with a coach to make the shift. You wouldn't take fitness advice from a friend who's never worked out a day in their life or from a friend who plays pro sports and can't imagine a day outside the gym, would you? Don't make that mistake in your love life.
So, keep the dialogue going with friends you trust, but know when to take advice with a grain of salt (or several).
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