Having previously been married 17 years and now divorced seven, I can say this with confidence: If you are not working on your marriage, you are working on your divorce.
So often, in the beginning of a relationship, you feel like a traveler in the desert, returning again and again to a well that quenches your thirst for precious, life-sustaining affection. Only a few years later, a simple request to take out the trash is met with—if not outright refusal—the definite message to think twice before asking for anything else.
We have excuses—they might even be good ones. Most of us are holding down exhausting jobs that leave us spent by the time we get home. And even with those paychecks, we’re in financial stress, a leading cause of marital strife.
Then there are the kids, counting on us for rides to football practice, music lessons, and the youth group at church. Living a life out of balance leaves little time to meet once a day around the dinner table, much less enjoy an evening connected to the one we joyfully sacrificed everything for a lifetime ago.
And we wake up one day surprised to find a stranger sleeping next to us each night—someone we don’t even recognize anymore. Or we find ourselves sleeping alone, wondering how we got to this point.