Ever had a professional vagina massage? As with most things in life, it wasn’t until a good (pregnant) friend of mine told me she was having a weekly appointment with a pelvic floor PT that I decided to take her referral and give it a go.
If you’ve never been pregnant before, the idea of having someone massage your vagina in order to help it stretch probably hasn’t occurred to you. There’s debate about whether a massage around the birth outlet will lower the risk of tearing or the need for your doctor to cut your perineum—particularly if you overdo it—but it’s a valuable therapy even if it is just intended to help you get oriented with how it all works down there.
If this is an idea that makes you cringe, then I encourage you to ask yourself how you feel about a human head stretching your vagina for you instead. Surely a gentle, warm, careful massage from a professional pelvic floor specialist would be a calmer way to ease into it?
If you’re worried that the experience might be, ahem, arousing, then I encourage you to look into concepts such as orgasmic birth. There is a saying in the birth professional community that "what gets the baby in, gets the baby out…" For real. I have seen many births where the mama is smiling, laughing, and hollering with pleasure as the baby crowns.
The only happy ending we’re going for here, though, is a happy, healthy baby and a happy, healthy vagina. Give it a go now, and maybe shop around for a therapist that you feel really comfortable with who will continue the therapy when you get closer to giving birth.