Don't Believe These 3 Myths About Feng Shui
When I was a kid visiting my dad in California, we once stopped at a psychic. She sat in a beachside store with a cool neon sign. I'd spent most of my life in New Jersey at the time, and I'd never seen anything like it before. I wanted to know everything.
She told us some good things and then finished with a lot of very scary things. Then, she said that to remove the bad karma, we needed to each buy a $99 candle. My dad laughed; I freaked out. I begged him to buy the candles, or at least buy me one!
On the way home, he told me that none of it was real. No candle was going to change my life. But I never really forgot how scared I was, even after I was told over and over again that it was just for fun. I wished I had never walked in that door.
The problem with "fear-based" feng shui.
I still have a strong reaction to these kinds of fear-based proclamations—and there are a lot of them in the world of feng shui. I'm not saying that all other feng shui is intrinsically bad, but some of it is mixed with superstition and fear and dogma that makes me feel like I'm right back in that store, looking at the $99 candle that will save me from a terrible disaster.
If you haven't guessed, I don't work that way with feng shui.
If you've ever dipped your toes into feng shui and wound up confused, scared, overwhelmed, or "unlucky," I'm here to tell you that there is a much different way to look at creating a home that supports your dreams. Here are some of the most pervasive feng shui myths I've come across and how to reframe them.
Myth 1: You have to sleep or set up furniture facing certain directions.
In 10 years, I have only seen a few bedrooms that could actually accommodate this rule. And in that time, I've seen tons of people face the "wrong" sleep direction and still manage to find their ideal partners, have babies, cure insomnia, and live incredible lives.
Having your bed in a place that feels stable, supportive, and feels right is what it's all about. If you have the room, feel free to try out a few arrangements and see which one feels right for you. If space is limiting your furniture layout, you can still create a sleep sanctuary—no matter what direction you face.
Myth 2: Your zodiac sign, your address, or the year itself can mean you have to redesign your home.
It doesn't matter what year it is, what your zodiac sign is, or what your address is. Your life is never, ever going to be limited by your home.
I love astrology that is positive. I don't look at the rest because it's an interpretation and a negative prediction. Nothing is intrinsically bad. (Not even Mercury retrograde!) I believe that you create your own luck. Anything that takes away your agency to create the life that you want at any given moment is just not true.
That brings me to the last myth...
Myth 3: You need to buy lucky statues or special crystals or a talisman to have a prosperous home.
Think about it: If you buy something new and place it in a special area in order to achieve success, you're investing a whole lot of power—your power—into that object. I would much rather see you invest that kind of belief and passion and magic into yourself.
I love crystals. They're wonderful gifts from the earth that can store information and amplify energy. But even the greatest gem experts I know, like my friends from Energy Muse, will tell you openly that crystals are tools. You need to make a connection to them and work with them. They won't help bring you money or love or anything else all by themselves. You are the true luck maker!