How To Stay Mentally Strong Through Any Hardship
If you’ve been into natural healing, personal development or spirituality for a while, you've probably heard the idea of surrendering.
But do you really know what it means? Or does just hearing the word “surrender” make you want to run for the hills?
The idea of surrendering can bring out a lot of self-judgment. You might think you’d be giving up, taking the easy way out or not giving your all. But if you really think about what it would feel like to surrender, you may recognize that surrendering is actually a very empowering and liberating experience.
Surrendering is simply accepting what's happening in your life right now and allowing it to flow around and through you. It's NOT sitting on your laurels being passive and not taking action to get a different outcome.
It's choosing to take the fighting energy (usually against yourself) out and instead trust that whatever is going on will pass. At the same time, you can certainly set a plan and take action to create a different experience and outcome, but this is done with a positive mindset, with peace and a clear mind, rather than fighting against yourself!
Below are three powerful ideas to keep in mind to help you surrender and therefore move more quickly through turmoil when you have something going on in your life that you’re not feeling at peace with. These are great to remember when you're feeling impatient about something, too!
I wanted to hit you up with a big one first! Everything you experience in life can teach you powerful lessons that help you grow and refine yourself, so you can live in alignment with your highest potential. Trust that each experience you go through can help you if you choose to allow it, and listen to what it has to teach you. Trust that the Universe has your back and always wants what’s best for you. You're not here to suffer. You're not here to live a life of pain.
Accepting what's happening right now, whether it's in your reality or in your mind, helps take the feeling away of warring sides. Even if it’s your own mind you're trying to fight, that energy is extremely tiring! Accepting is not agreeing that your thoughts are what is real, or agreeing that your situation can’t be changed. Far from it. I’m a huge believer in creating your reality with conscious thought and taking conscious action, while at the same time accepting that things are as they are right now, or that you are having thoughts that don’t serve you, and letting go of the resistance energy behind them that can hold you back from having a peaceful experience in the moment or from moving forward.
Allowing what's happening to flow through you also takes away the resistance. Just think of the word “allow.” Instantly it feels like you can put down your weapons and things will flow more freely. Again, this is not about allowing in things that don’t serve you, or not honoring your personal boundaries. This is about allowing what's going on in your world or your mind to flow over you so it can pass and the stress of resisting can dissipate.
By allowing, you're moving through the experience or thought much more quickly than if you resist it. Ever heard the phrase “what you resist persists”? It’s absolutely true!
If these resonate for you, I recommend writing these three words down and putting them where you can see them daily — on your fridge, desk, computer, bathroom mirror, or wherever is convenient.
I hope you enjoy doing the same!
Do you notice when you are resisting what is happening in your life? If so, how do you move through it? Share in the comments below!