Last month I launched a new weekly podcast series featuring real conversations with some of the most progressive people I know. I felt interviewing my own friends — many of whom live very full lives — just didn’t get deep enough into who they really are, nor did it address the matters that concern them on a daily basis; therefore the idea of reconnecting with everyone, having an intimate conversation, and sharing it with anyone who wanted to listen in was very appealing.
Not surprisingly, core themes emerge when you go deep. One of the most popular topics, as you can imagine, is relationships. One of the most successful discussions to date was with model Kate Dillon, who shared her thoughts around maintaining independence while being married with children.
As a strong, independent woman, I recognize the need for autonomy in my own life — in and out of a romantic relationship. And as a close friend of Kate’s — who is another self-reliant, freethinking individual — I couldn’t help but inquire about how she manages being a wife and mother. “I am still working through the transition,” she confided. “[I realized] we had to be partners and get past the love part. The love part becomes the foundation you rely on when things get tough.”
After the conversation, we came up with five ways to be autonomous while maintaining a strong relationship. Ironically, I feel that preserving some of your independence only gives a relationship more strength, spontaneity and longevity.