Are You Lying Because It's Easy?
The word integrity was one I'd never heard before I entered the self-help world, but fairly early in my introspective journey it became a part of every conversation I had. But what is integrity really? What does it take to be able to declare yourself a person who has integrity?
According to Wikipedia, integrity "is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions."
- Do you have integrity in the area of self-love?
- Do you have integrity in regard to how you treat others?
- Do you have integrity with your divine purpose?
- Do you have integrity when it comes to your finances?
The power of integrity, I believe, holds many truths about who we are. By stepping into your truth and honesty fully and learning to live from that place consistently, you're on the path to living a life with integrity. Always observe to see if your actions, words and thoughts align with who you are no matter what another person is saying or doing.
This brings me to a book by Don Miguel Ruiz, called The Four Agreements. In the first agreement he says, “Be impeccable with your word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.” He capitalizes Word to say that this is your highest truth, this is your power, your faith. To express yourself impeccably and with integrity means expressing yourself in the direction of truth and love. And absolutely, this is not as simple as it sounds.
Aligning with and speaking your truth all the time requires moment-to-moment awareness. It's speaking up and speaking out for yourself even when it feels safer to hold back. Do you tell a friend that her partner is cheating? Do you ever lie for the sake of sparing someone’s feelings? Do you proceed boldly or with caution when you’re speaking with integrity?
This takes practice. Discovering what your truths are and allowing them to breathe through you can be scary and uncomfortable. It can mean having the conversations you don’t want to have. It can mean being an entirely new you. Speaking with integrity, in all your amazingness, is taking off your mask, which is life-changing.
I invite you to look throughout your life and see if you're living a life aligned with truth, integrity and honesty in every single aspect. This might seem simple, but you need to dig deeper. Are you cutting yourself short when you know that you deserve more? Are you taking someone you love for granted, even if it's accidental? Do you eat things you know are harmful for you, or spend money in a way that you know doesn't serve your highest good?
This isn't meant to stress you out or get you down; it's designed to allow you to get truly inspired by how much more intentional and authentic your life could be! I had to look at these questions in my own life, and boy did I feel uncomfortable.
When it's all said and done, though, I'm willing to be uncomfortable in the short term to have a life filled with integrity in the long term. Are you?