As a result, I tried to change myself to please
everyone else, which was rather exhausting!
When we judge other people in a negative way, we're judging ourselves.
When we talk badly of people, we're shifting responsibility of the feelings we
hold for ourselves on to others. When we feel the need to put other people
down, we unconsciously see something in them that we don’t like in our self. We
can choose whether to take on opinions, criticisms and judgments — or not.
The great news is that if we can take back control over how we feel and
take appropriate action, we get to be in control our own life. WOW!
Having been overweight for the better part of 20 years (another thing people
had an opinion about), I feel fortunate that I've been able to apply this valuable knowledge to my life, because it's been critical to my own evolution. I have been able to release
the struggle I had about trying to be the perfect person to everyone else, when
in fact it was them who needed to change. Knowing that I had control over my
feelings allowed me to get to know myself and begin to love who I was. This had a positive impact on my self-esteem
and self-worth, and the weight loss followed. The feeling of liberation after
letting go is a precious gift for you to allow yourself any time.
If someone annoys or upsets you, do you smoke a cigarette, eat some
chocolate, drink a bottle of wine, spend money on something expensive? No one can change the way you feel about yourself long term, so if you have
low self-esteem and self-confidence you won't get long-term results immersing
into people, food, drugs, alcohol. It only prolongs the problem or makes it worse.
This may sound easier said than done, since it’s so easy to blame
everyone else for the way you feel! But when you learn to take control of your thoughts
and emotions, you gain strength. People treat you
differently and respect you more.
If you get caught up in other people’s stuff, remember these tips: