You've been together for a while now. You've done wild and crazy things, like jumping over a fence to find a secluded spot for some quality time. You're so comfortable together that you can practically finish each other's sentences.
It's strange how we get so comfortable that doing something different is just too much effort. All that hard work to get you to where you are in the relationship has exhausted you, and now it's ok to observe only obligatory celebrations like birthdays and Valentine's Day.
How do you keep the relationship strong and help it grow?
Here are three strategies to do just that:
1. It's all about fun!
Having fun in a relationship is a vital part in keeping your feelings for each other strong. We all love having fun and feeling the freedom to laugh and be ourselves without a care in the world. Imagine yourselves giggling like 5-year-olds and that's the type of fun both of you should be having.
At the end of the day, it's the experience you share together and the memory you both create for each other doing fun things that keep the happiness and the endorphins running around in your body!
•Brainstorm a list of activities you would love to experience because you think they're fun.
•Be spontaneous and pick one of those things to do on the spur of the moment.
• Share that list with your other half — it gives them ideas of what to do for you as a surprise (like a birthday!)
2. Take the time to get to know the other person ... more!
Here's the challenge: people change over time and their tastes change as well. The time you spent together learning about what makes the other person tick at the beginning of a relationship shouldn't stop when you start dating or settle into a stable relationship. A great relationship grows when you learn more about the person you love, as well as when you learn about yourself.
If you've been together for a while it's a good idea to check to see if what you know is still the same or if it's changed.
•Go for a walk and be inquisitive!
•Take a moment to take stock of what you like and what has changed.
•Make it about learning more about them.
3. Learn about love languages.
What the hell is a Love Language? Simply put, we feel loved when someone speaks our language of love. This could be expressed when your partner says, "I love you," or it could be expressed as a hug or holding hands. You may be a person who feels loved when your partner does things for you, like drawing you a bath. Maybe you feel loved simply by spending time together. It may even be that you feel the greatest love when they buy you a gift.
People feel love via:
•Words of Affirmation
•Acts of Service
Imagine learning the language your partner receives Love and then expressing your feelings to them in their language. Don't stress if you don't quite get it right; it's the fun of learning about the person you are in love with! That's how you grow to understand your relationship, right?
•Make it a game to work out what your partner's love language is. Test each one out and see what happens!
•Ask your partner whether they feel most loved when you use a love language.
•Do a love language test! Go to www.5lovelanguages.com and do the free test.