Truth Is, You Don’t “Have To.” (Really, You Don’t.)
“It doesn't feel right.”
Pause right there.
Even if it doesn't feel like it: this is a significant place to be.
Definitely worth noting.
Yet we steamroll through these feelings as if they were inconsequential.
Or inconvenient even.
We think we don’t have time for something to “not feel right.”
The job needs to get done;
the task complete;
the relationship hauled forward, already.
Rationalization run amuck, we feed ourselves very sensible, very logical reasons why we “should.”
It sounds like this…..
- I’ll do it to make them happy.
- But it’s good money.
- It will make me look good.
- But it’s a great opportunity.
- I should just agree + avoid confrontation.
- But I am all they have. If I don’t do it, who will?
- But they’re expecting me to and I don’t want to disappoint them.
No. You. Shouldn't.
Because it doesn't feel right.
All that rationalization can over-complicate the decision making process.
Your gut instincts are among the most powerful natural resources you have.
They will tell you how you feel long before you can articulate it.
Honor this information.
The truth is, you don’t “have to.” (Really, you don’t.)
Just because you think you “should” doesn’t mean you should.
And most times when you do something “for the money” you suffocate your soul.
Which, quite frankly, is a drag and it's uncomfortable in the long run.
Doing what feels right will always make you feel bright and turned on.
Doing what feels right is simple.
What feels right will not, however, be instantly popular.
So how do we do what feels right?
- Learn to say “no” or “I’ve already got a commitment on that day” or “I’ll have to take a pass this time.”
- Surround yourself with people who support you. We all know people to tread boundaries, who push for a “yes” when you’re saying “no.” Stop.returning.their.calls,
- Take time each day for journalling or internal reflection. Sometimes we have to get quiet so we can hear that voice telling us what’s right.
- Remember those times you followed your intuition and it worked out for the best? Yup, I thought so. Take strength from past victories.
- If a person/situation/activity regularly rubs you the wrong way - even if it’s something that’s ‘right,’ like networking events or yoga or
- That Perfectly Nice Guy - stop. The Universe has a different plan for you.
The world pays attention and you teach us how to treat you.
If you are always caving in to the “shoulds” + consistently abandoning your gut instincts, you teach us to expect you to fold and we’ll lean on you for “more.”
If you hold your boundaries and do only what feels right; you give us the opportunity to set our grumbling aside and lean in with admiration and respect.