The 3 Most Important Words You Need To Say To Yourself

Many of us say the three most important words, I love you, to our spouse, partner, lover, children, friends, and even our pets. But how many of us say I love you, [insert your name]?

Admittedly, I went decades before I ever uttered those words to myself, but I longed to know what love felt like and my deep desire led me down a self-destructive path.

I kept looking for love in all of the wrong places, via people and places and things. As you can imagine, I did not treat myself lovingly.

How could I?

Every time I looked at myself in the mirror, I'd pick apart my body or my face, which only amplified my feelings of inadequacy.

Because I wanted to be loved, I'd wear a mask and play the role of the perfect daughter, sister, friend, partner or employee.

Ha! I could have won an Oscar.

It took the ending of a turbulent relationship for me to hit rock bottom and really confront myself. So I went on a quest seeking answers as to why I was not finding love.

I read countless self-help books but none really resonated with me. Then I discovered Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life and I had an aha moment.

She writes about saying positive affirmations in front of the mirror as a powerful way to connect with your spirit.

Like an enthusiastic student, I wanted to implement this theory, but after a few days I was experiencing a lot of discomfort. It just was not easy expressing or even feeling an ounce of self-love.

So imagine my pleasant surprise when one morning weeks later, I stared at my reflection in the mirror and wholeheartedly said, “I love you, Andrea.”

I gushed from ear-to-ear, wrapped my arms around my shoulders and gave myself a hug.

Then I proceeded to say the following affirmations:

  • I am beautiful.
  • I accept myself exactly as I am.
  • Not only do I feel absolutely, positively amazing, I no longer look for love in the wrong places. Now, I know that I am love. All I had to do was honor my soul.

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