Hello, I am Stacy and I am a recovering perfectionist. I was a robot teenager, not scoring an A did not compute….I was rigid, serious, deemed “proper” by my oh-so-kind classmates.
Because let’s face it: If we can’t love ourselves, we sure as heck can’t be present for anyone else. Not only does self-compassion benefit others, it benefits YOUR body and mind and here’s why.
Self love is like sex, self-deprecation is you beating yourself up (literally).
I got your attention didn’t I?
Well it’s the truth. Studies indicate when we exercise self-compassion, the hormone oxytocin is secreted, which is the same hormone that is secreted during sex and when we get hugs.
Contrary to this, when we are self-critical, our body goes into fight-or-flight mode or stress response mode, a physiological response that dates back to prehistoric man. Many moons ago, this response was used to help defend us against tigers and bears while hunting for food.
Today, there are no tigers and bears, but you are your own predator when you beat yourself up! If you are constantly self-critical, that can lead to chronic stress and eventually illness. According to the Benson Henry Institute of Mind Body Medicine, 60-90% of illnesses are stress-induced.
Self-love means a happier, more optimistic you.
Multiple studies have indicated that people who exercise self-compassion are: