Life delivers many unexpected events, some of which rattle us to our core. I know when I gave up my career in radio advertising in exchange for parenthood, I felt as though a piece of me was missing.
This breakup hit me deeper than expected. I was no longer a breadwinning, self-sufficient woman. I was now Mom and the Administrative Assistant in my household. This may sound like a dream to many, but for someone who had played the role of Miss Independent for quite some time, this was earth shattering and even depressing. Yes, I had the enormous gift of a beautiful child, but I felt as though I had completely lost my identity. I wasn't sure who I really was without my Account Exec title.
This feeling of losing a piece of who you are is a common one when you face life-changing events. Divorce, the loss of a spouse or a child, and even a shift in income or unexpected lifestyle change can induce this feeling of being half of who you are.
Here's the good news: You are still whole.
When I went through my own identity crisis, after I got over the initial shift in job title, I realized I was on the cusp of experiencing the real me! I came out of this life change with a new perspective on my purpose. I realized that no matter what job I have, or status I have (Miss, Mrs., Ms.) I have not lost anything at all! I am still whole! The only thing that has changed for me is how I choose to identify myself.
The beauty of going through a change in life is we get to really meet ourselves and discover who we are, our innate desires, and what makes us tick. Whatever life change you are going through is an opportunity to discover your true essence. It's a chance to break free and recreate yourself. Maybe even go deeper into experiencing the real you. How delicious!
You see, we never really change. We're always whole, perfect, and exactly where we should be. The only thing that changes is our perception of ourselves. We are still magnificent beings of love, no matter what our circumstances. If we perceive ourselves as whole even through the toughest of times, we find ourselves in the flow of life, allowing life to love us and deliver new opportunities. Our perception is our reality. And if we choose to perceive life as a gift, we will relish in the present. All change is good as long as we accept it as such.
We can find new strength, hidden talents, and a world full of hope when we let go of our fabricated identities that we tend to give so much value. Our value is within ourselves, in our hearts, in our trusting ourselves and life to love us fully.
That's where our authenticity lies. In our true self, we are always at peace. If we choose to wear a different hat, or life makes the decision for us, the only shift is in our mind. Our true self is always whole, perfect, and content. Welcome change! Welcome a new identity. The world awaits your gifts.