When my clients contact me, one of the most common reasons they need support and guidance is because they're afraid of change. Some people thrive in changing environments and get a real buzz from change, but many others associate pain and anxiety with it.
We are all born with a choice to do whatever feels right. Intuition often guides our decisions, but most people rely on other people to tell them what to do, and may not even consciously be aware of it.
When you shift onto someone else the responsibility of making a decision, you give your power away. If a situation goes wrong or something doesn’t go according to plan, it’s very convenient to point the finger at someone else and hold them responsible for the result, even if you just think it in your head! What a great way to avoid having to face up to things! Not such a great way to live your life, though, and if you're feeling stuck in a rut, or climbing up a steep hill, chances are you either need to change something or stop handing the responsibility of your life to someone else.
Hiding behind someone else is not a means to inner gratification. If you feel like you're living in the shadow of another, ask yourself what benefit it is to stay there and what would happen if you made a change. The world is so full of opportunity, but many people get stuck in the same routines, working like robots. Only you can control and unleash your happy future.
If change makes you feel uncomfortable there will be a reason for this and you will need to dig a little deeper. Change is often associated with fear: