Stop Hiding Behind Others And Take Control Of Your Decisions
When my clients contact me, one of the most common reasons they need support and guidance is because they're afraid of change. Some people thrive in changing environments and get a real buzz from change, but many others associate pain and anxiety with it.
We are all born with a choice to do whatever feels right. Intuition often guides our decisions, but most people rely on other people to tell them what to do, and may not even consciously be aware of it.
When you shift onto someone else the responsibility of making a decision, you give your power away. If a situation goes wrong or something doesn’t go according to plan, it’s very convenient to point the finger at someone else and hold them responsible for the result, even if you just think it in your head! What a great way to avoid having to face up to things! Not such a great way to live your life, though, and if you're feeling stuck in a rut, or climbing up a steep hill, chances are you either need to change something or stop handing the responsibility of your life to someone else.
Hiding behind someone else is not a means to inner gratification. If you feel like you're living in the shadow of another, ask yourself what benefit it is to stay there and what would happen if you made a change. The world is so full of opportunity, but many people get stuck in the same routines, working like robots. Only you can control and unleash your happy future.
If change makes you feel uncomfortable there will be a reason for this and you will need to dig a little deeper. Change is often associated with fear:
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Fear of being attractive
- Fear of happiness
- Fear of uncertainty
- Fear of embarrassment
- Fear of dying
These are just some of the fears ingrained in our subconscious mind and are the likely culprits to our not achieving what we want.
Fear is very much an illusion, because when you think of doing something, you often imagine the outcome as a very exaggerated visual image or feeling.
My question to you is: What do you want to change? What's stopping you?
Stop for a moment to notice your answers. What comes up?
There may be a whole load of self-talk or excuses coming at you like a tsunami, or maybe you couldn’t think of anything. Either way, these questions can be very powerful and can be used any time you feel like you’re not getting anywhere, or you can’t seem to make a decision. First you must acknowledge your fear, then decisions and action can follow.
Maybe you’re at a crossroads and don’t know which way to turn. Perhaps you feel like life is an uphill struggle. Or you just cannot seem to get the break you need. All of these thoughts can be transformed in to action; you just need to take more responsibility and learn to be the captain of your life. Grab a copy of my ebook for lots of great ideas on how you can really make this your best year yet!