You know how it feels.
A flame in the pit of your stomach for that corner office.
A nearly physical desire for a loft to call your own, high above the city.
A constant craving for a partner and a baby and a life full of minivans and sports practices.
And you know how it sounds.
That voice in your head saying:
Wouldn’t it be fantastic if.....
I’d really love to …..
I would probably levitate with joy if....
But we grown-ups know that life is frequently a series of compromises.
So how does one walk that tightrope between craving and compromise?
Diplomacy and desire?
Is it really possible to ask for anything you want?
And not piss off your boss/BFF/boyfriend?
Yes. And I’m going to tell you how.
How to Negotiate
Let’s start by asking for what you want.
You deserve what you want. So speak up.
Few people are mind readers. We can’t expect others to just “know.” When you cease to express your needs, wants, and desires, you suspend the right to be disappointed when you don’t get what you want.
Ask your manager, the universe, your lover, the saleswoman, the barista behind the Starbucks counter.
Asking for what you want will make today easier on you. And on everyone.
The recipe for getting anything you want: