The Best Valentine's Gift EVER

Written by Shelly Bullard, MFT

Want to knock your sweetie's socks (and more) off this year? If you do, I know just the gift you can give. 

It is absolutely the best present a person can receive. Move over flowers and chocolate—there's one Valentine that really takes the cake.

Can you guess what it is?



Yes. Appreciation.

Appreciate your man.

Appreciate your woman.

It sounds so obvious; it sounds so easy. But it isn't always so. Unfortunately this gift of all gifts gets overlooked way too often. And it's a shame that this happens because appreciation makes everything so good!

In this article I'm going to tell you how this very simple thing called appreciation can guarantee that you'll have a Valentine's Day to remember.

There is nothing that feels better than being appreciated. Nothing. Being looked in the eye and genuinely told that you are seen, and cared for, and loved. That's the ultimate. (Big statements, I know.)

It's just the simple truth: appreciation feels really, really good. Not just for one, but for BOTH people. (That's right: the appreciator does not get overlooked here.) This is because appreciation is essentially a way to express and exchange your love.

We often don't realize that it feels just as good to express our love to another as it does to have it expressed to us. We become really preoccupied with getting love that sometimes we forget to give it. And here's a little secret, the fastest and easiest way to get love is by giving it way.

When you feel love in your heart (the way you feel when you're appreciating), you feel love! That's it. End of story. It's not about getting something back in return because you are automatically receiving. What is in your heart you feel too.

And this is the essence of appreciation. When I love you I feel love. And as we all know, nothing feels better then love.

Unfortunately appreciation often gets trumped when it comes to the holidays. Especially this holiday. Why? Because we have expectations. We get hypnotized by the way we want it to look and feel and be; we get caught up in the gifts and dinner, that we forget what we are actually celebrating.

And just in case you forgot, what we are celebrating on Valentine's Day is each other. How you do that is through appreciation.

I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't buy your partner something on this day. If you want to, by all means, go ahead. But I have to be honest and tell you that without appreciation, your gift will only go so far.

How do I know?

Because material things do not bring us a deep sense of happiness and love. They just don't. Do we like them? Of course. Do we want them? Yes. But what we really want (way more than things) is love.

Things don't love us. People do.

Give your Valentine the best gift ever this year and see the good in him or her. Love them! Focus on their beauty. Focus on what's right.

Appreciate him. Appreciate her.

Just the way they are.

It's not that difficult to do. Just remember, this person is in this life with YOU. Sharing this experience with you. Sharing this moment with you.

That is a big deal—it's definitely something to be appreciated.

For those of you feeling a little shy about appreciation, just let your heart lead the way. Appreciation does not have to be fancy; it can be really simple as long as it's honest and genuine. The golden rule about appreciation is this: if you speak from your heart, it will speak to her/his heart.

Hearts speak to each other.

Can it be vulnerable to share your appreciation with another person? You better believe it can be (that's part of why it's so special). But please, do not let that stop you!

Too often we back away from telling people what our hearts are saying because we're scared. Unfortunately by shying away from sharing your love, you're only blocking yourself from feeling love too. Love is supposed to be shared—that's how it grows. Appreciation is a magnificent way to express and grow your love.

Celebrate Valentine's Day this year by telling your special someone how lucky you feel to have them by your side. Look them in the eye. Honor them.

This is your partner—the person you are sharing your life with. Give them the best gift ever by telling them how grateful you are that this is so.

Shelly Bullard, MFT
Shelly Bullard, MFT
Shelly Bullard, MFT, is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the...
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