Has there ever been a time in your life when you didn’t know you could actually make your own choices? I've been there.
By the time I showed up at college, I felt lost. I realized I hadn’t even chosen the school I wanted to go to! While applying to college, the list had become my parents’ list, and in the end I chose what they expected of me.
A respectable profession to my parents meant medicine or law, so off to law school I went. Perfect overachiever that I was, I persevered through those grueling years and landed a coveted first-year associate position in a very prestigious law practice.
Sadly, I came to realize that who I had become did not reflect my truest desires. I was living a life others had planned for me and I was uninspired, unfulfilled, and craving something more, something ME.
Unfortunately, this pattern of not identifying with the main character on the big screen in MY movie continued in every aspect of my life.
I wanted to live a life I loved, to make my passions my career and to make choices that reflected my values and my heart. The problem was, I didn’t trust myself.
I had become so programmed to do and become someone I was not, I really had to take a step back and look deep inside of myself. I was scared.
I was going to have to walk away from everything I had become to be who I really wanted to be. I had to be strong. It was going to require courage. For years, I did not have that courage.
Yes, I knew what I had to do. I just could not place one foot in front of the other to walk through the door until it slammed in my face. It ended up making a catastrophe of my life, wreaking complete havoc in my marriage, and harming my health and my body.
Finally, I was waking up!
Finally, I was ready to get real with myself.
It definitely wasn’t easy, and it wasn’t a quick fix. In fact, I’ll be working on myself now for the rest of my life! The knowledge and skills I’ve absorbed through my process are critical to my health, and I never even knew I needed them!
I can tell you I did not go through this alone. I knew I needed someone to hold me accountable for my dreams, my insecurities, my fears and my actions. I needed someone who would make me promise to myself that I would do what I knew in heart I wanted to do.
Integrating our passions with our career should come easy. We have a right to do what we love. For so many of us, it's more difficult than we could have ever imagined. I know so many other people have had similar experiences. We literally don’t realize we have the right to choose. For others, “success” has arrived and, even though they may feel unfulfilled and unhappy, the thought of walking away and starting over is unfathomable.
What would happen if you were taught to make choices that affect your LIFE with your heart instead of your head?
What would happen if you started to visualize your dreams and could see them in front of you? You’d be surprised. The universe conspires with you when you tell it what you want.
One of the homework assignments I was given and would suggest for all of you would be to get out that piece of paper and start writing.
How do you feel about your career, your relationships, your family, your body, your fitness, your health, your diet, your spirituality or any other area of your life?
If any of these areas of your life are not a number 10 on a scale of 1-10, why not? What are you going to do right now to change them? This is a brilliant exercise in honesty and integrity. Are you living your purpose and if so, why not?
So, how do you know when you aren’t living the life you love?
Are you stuck in something that has no passion? Are you just burned out and in dire need of inspiration?
If you spend more of your time unhappy than you do feeling fulfilled and inspired, you probably need to reevaluate your life. If you are afraid to leave your career for fear of what others will think of you--or disappointing someone in your life--then it’s most likely time to consider who has the control over your choices.
The most important thing I have ever learned is that this is MY life. I get to write the story! I get to decide how much time off I need to nurture myself and give back in a meaningful way. I get to decide how to rejuvenate and replenish my soul.
Creating the life you love does not have to be daunting.
iIn order to do so, you must be willing to let go of outdated passions and get rid of patterns and people that are no longer serving your biggest desires and dreams. Surround yourself with inspiring uplifted people who don’t settle for anything less than living a life connected to all that you love.
Are you ready?