Crappy days are inevitable, and they always seem to happen when life is flowing smoothly. One moment you're feeling pretty good, nothing can stop you, and then seemingly out of nowhere, you're hit with a flat tire, a broken arm, bank fraud, divorce, disease .... One drama turns into a larger travesty, and all of a sudden an epic horrible day sets in.
This recently happened to me. It was more than just waking up on the wrong side of the bed, it was a day most would consider an epic travesty of a day. The good news is: when crap hits the fan, there is a way out.
These tips can help you turn any crappy day into a happier day:
1. Recognize that it's just a moment in time.
My mantra for my bad days has become "this too shall pass." In moments of complete chaos and utter desperation, we tend to feel as though the world is ending. Everything becomes more dramatic. Staying in this vibration of turbulent emotions makes it harder to work through them.
Instead, I focus on the fact that this is just a moment in time and soon, maybe even tomorrow, it will no longer be an issue. Also ask yourself: will this matter a year from now? Will this be an issue tomorrow, next week, next month, or in a year? Most likely, the answer is no, and then you can feel better knowing it will soon end.
2. Freak out.
Many of us hold on to our emotions because we want to feel as if we have it under control, but this actually makes the situation worse. It's completely OK to freak out and allow yourself to have a meltdown! On my crappy days, I cry almost every hour as a release and push through the emotions. Then I am more grounded and focused. I move onto the next problem and work on solving it.
Allow yourself to feel your emotions in the moment. Notice your frustration, anger, anxiety, depression, and even rage. Avoid turning to food, drugs, alcohol, or any other numbing device. The faster you can feel your feelings, the faster you can work through the tough time.
Working through the emotions and giving yourself a moment to break down will help you feel better.
3. Be kind to yourself.
During the bad times, it's especially important to put your health first and be kind to yourself. Choose loving, positive thoughts and treat yourself compassionately.
If you don't have time to work out or you didn't eat as well as you wanted to, this is not the time to beat yourself up, that will actually escalate and make the crappy day into an even larger problem. Instead just be in the moment and kindly treat yourself with respect and compassion. Do something nice for yourself, take a hot bath, call a BFF and talk it out, pet a furry pal or listen to your favorite music.