I used to spend much of my life saying: I should have... I wish I would have... I wish I hadn't... I could have...
Oh? You want me to actually fill in the blanks for you?
Ok, I will. I am down with being very honest these days.
Here is what I used to say. A lot. Old tapes, if you will.
I should have stayed in NYC and not moved to LA. I probably would be a famous writer and wear turtle necks and live in a cute apartment in the West Village and my life would be perfect.
I wish I would have realized how beautiful I was when I was younger instead of hating myself so much.
I wish I hadn't said "I hate you" to my father right before he died. Those were the last words I spoke to him. Maybe he wouldn't have died?
I could have probably been a successful actress if I had just wanted it more, or been prettier or tried harder or been skinnier or...
Being honest is so scary but feels so good. So refreshing!
I no longer say these things. Not in my head. Not out loud. Never. (Well, mostly never. Sticking with the "honesty thing" here).
I decided at some point to shift my thoughts and my beliefs and live in the present. It's nice here. I think I will stay awhile.
For a lot of my life I lived in 1983 even when it was 2003. Sound familiar? I allowed myself to be immobilized by the past. Now that is way scarier than being honest, folks.
I changed my whole life by changing my thoughts and taking action in the NOW.
Yes, once in a while I longingly look toward my past and wish I had done things differently. Then I wake up. I wouldn't be me if I hadn't gone through exactly what I had to go through to get here. If I hadn't done it exactly like that. There is no it should have been this instead of that.
There is only that. It is impossible to think there could have been a this.
This or That.
Choose one and move on!
No more Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda. Write down below where you have either made a shift and are no longer living in the "shoulda woulda coulda" mindset or where you are going to start today!