The words we use have a powerful effect on us, way beyond the basic meaning of the words themselves.
We use words to express ourselves. These words create a specific emotion within us. This emotion creates a cascade of reactions in every system of our body: hormonal, nervous, digestive, circulatory, respiratory etc. This physical reaction, created by specific words, is stored as a memory at a cellular level. When repeatedly created, this memory becomes a truth.
The following four words are commonly used and abused on a daily basis, way more than we can imagine. They’re not rude words, or even offensive. Yet they are intricately linked to creating negative truths within us. They are intrinsically tied to judgment, criticism, and defeatism and are fundamentally disempowering through their lack of flexibility and change.
How often do you find yourself using these four words, and do you actually mean them when you use them?
Always: Do you/he/she/they really always do/say this, that, or the other?
Never: Really? Ever, ever? Not even once?
Everyone: Every single body? Surely not, we are a diverse bunch after all.
No one: If you’ve had the thought then most likely ‘someone’ is/does/says…
Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill! You see, these words may seem innocent enough, but notice what happens next time you use one of them in a negative situation. How does it make you feel about the situation? How does it affect your current state of mind? Does it empower you to resolve the situation? Probably not…
Catch yourself using any of these words in a sentence, whether it’s about you or someone else and immediately replace them - out loud - with ‘no, actually, that’s not true, what I really mean is often/lately/he, she, they/sometimes etc.’ This will help you to put things into perspective, to verbalize them as they really are, in this particular situation. This is your reality here and now, it is not a universal truth.
Unless you want it to be.