The ability to figure out when you should let go for your own well-being is one of the most difficult and heartbreaking tasks. Most of us hold on for as long as we can, because there is a small glimmer of hope that comes along with the misery we are feeling daily. It almost feels like it is worth the pain because of the hope. We need to see that every bad has a good, and every good has a bad, and when you decide enough is enough, you are also accepting the loss of the good. I believe this is the hardest part of letting go.
Holding on to something causing negativity in your life is unhealthy. I, at 27, am realizing the difficulty in letting go for the first time in my life. I, of course, have let go of a lot of things but never anything that impacted my life as much as my current situation. And as long as that faint notion of hope reigned in the distance, I clung.
Then, I woke up one morning a few months ago, and for the first time looked in the mirror and saw a love for myself I have never had before. I was happy with me and the person staring back at me. I was proud of my accomplishments as a mother, a person, an aspiring yoga instructor, friend, daughter, sister, etc. Everything seemed to be aligned while I was staring at my own reflection. I decided I was done with any and all negativity and needed to make a very hard decision. Mind, body, spirit, heart and soul, I needed to let go of something that had been a huge part of my life, all while understanding the hope would leave with it as well. The small bit of good left when the bad was forced out, and man did it hurt… but man-oh-man, did I feel better internally, externally, all around in my being. Letting go does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean regretting.
When something you love is causing more bad than good, it is time to accept and let go. I am not saying move on, but just let it go and just be. Just be you, love you, be in love with yourself, and always put yourself first. You need these things to allow the great light inside you to radiate for anyone else to see.