I have chosen to surround myself with like-minded people who share ideas and motivate one other. But, what I wasn’t expecting was the sense of comparison that would come about from doing so.
I’m not a naturally competitive person. In fact, I really suck at it. I don’t have the kahunas to big myself up enough whilst chopping someone else down. It’s just not my style, and I’m grateful for that.
So, when I discovered this weird sense of anxiousness and emotional instability brewing inside of me, it took awhile to realize what it was. Until, that is, one day I was trawling through my facebook newsfeed (and twitter, instagram and so forth) and found myself hovering over the posts and updates of fellow industry folk. And in that moment I felt a flurry of anxiety in my gut. I just knew that social media had got the better of me – taking my focus from my own direction to that of others.
With a click, I switched off and walked a way. A few deep breaths and some journal writing led me to understand that I had developed a small sense of fear around my giant leap of faith – leaving work to pursue my passions as a yoga teacher and holistic health coach – and that fear had driven me to compare myself to others.
Why was I doing this when I had always felt so strongly that I was living in my truth, with passion, drive and motivation? Each small win had always felt so big to me, so momentous. And now, instead, I was grappling with that oh-so boring “I’m not good enough” story.
When I drilled down a little more, I had to admit that social media, as much as I love it and appreciate how it connects me, was also slowly chipping away at my sense of self.
So I took a break from social media. I literally unplugged and switched off. Four whole days. Mammoth, I know. But it did wonders. I was able to spend time with myself and those I love, instead of spreading little pieces of myself everywhere – an instagram here, a status update there, a tweet or two just because. I reconnected to who I am, why I am doing what I do, and what I consider success to be. I took my own coaching advice, you could say.
These are the five things I did to let go of the comparison game and find my own truth again.