Have you ever put pressure on yourself to accomplish or do certain things because of your age? You probably have at some point in your life.
For instance, if you’re a teenager, you might feel pressure to start dating or have your first kiss. If you’re a young adult, you might feel pressure to figure out exactly what you’re going to do with your life. If you’re in your twenties, you might feel pressure to make your living or working arrangements more permanent and official. If you’re in your thirties, you might feel pressure to settle down and get married or have kids.
The list goes on and on.
It’s tempting to live our lives by a set of societal expectations, especially when we see our friends or other people our age doing things we think we should be doing. We start comparing our lives to theirs, and it makes us feel inferior or left behind. We feel obligated to be at the same level as them and are sometimes willing to settle for just about anything for the sole purpose of potential social acceptance and validation. That is where the problem lies.
If you’re doing something or trying to do something because you want to feel accepted or validated, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.
Before making a certain decision or taking a certain path in life, you need to ask yourself why you’re doing it. Are you doing it because you want to, or are you doing it because you feel pressured to? It’s easy to confuse the two because subconsciously, we all want social acceptance. We all want to feel like we’re doing something right and that we’re on the right path.
But be honest with yourself. If you’re not ready for, don’t want, or feel pressured to obtain that thing you’re chasing, you simply shouldn’t be chasing it.
You are on the right path for you, and you’re not on a time limit.
If you’re not ready for your first kiss, don’t have your first kiss. If you don’t want to get married or have kids, don’t get married or have kids. If you want an untraditional career, pursue an untraditional career.
The only person in charge of the choices you make is you.
Make sure you’re doing what you’re doing for the right reasons, and remember that social acceptance or the pressure to conform should never be one of those reasons.
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