Beauty can mean different things to different people and can cause many conflicts. There is the fear, for example, of not being quite “right”, not being “normal”, not matching the “image” of beauty – whatever that might be. People today are being bombarded with images of what they are “supposed” to look like and have a feeling of “needing to conform.” In business, many women often hide their femininity and attractiveness in order to be taken seriously. Underneath all this, what they really want is to feel LOVED.
It has been said that people are more unhappy than they have ever been. They are spending more and more on fashion and beauty and yet it hasn’t brought fulfillment! Fulfillment and feeling beautiful is an INSIDE JOB! How we feel deep inside about ourselves is the root and connection to our true radiance! If we don’t love ourselves as we are right now – then how can we expect anyone else to love us?! First step – FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF!
EMBRACE YOUR BODY. What labels or past conditioning is running us regarding our body? Overweight, pale, aging, skinny, fat? What story around your body causes you pain or embarrassment? How many feel like your body doesn’t measure up? What emotions are running you – giving you feelings of shame, embarrassment, lacking in self worth?
Past conditioning can determine how we see our bodies and is formed at a very young age and adapted depending on the culture we live in, religion, the standards of beauty in the environment we grew up in. We have deep seated largely negative thoughts which block us from shining forth. Our biggest “veil” – or inner critic, is constantly criticising, comparing and rejecting our own body!!
At the root of all this is a deep desire for LOVE. We want to be beautiful TO BE LOVED! Our “body judge” takes this desire and, demeaning and critical, it runs us into the ground!
Are you even aware you have one? There are many different forms: