How many times have you held back from saying what you really felt, what was really on your mind, or asked for what you really wanted instead of playing if safe?
How many times have you complained to a friend that your significant other is not treating you right, that your boss doesn’t appreciate you, that __________________________?
How many times have you danced around an issue, never really saying what you really wanted to say and coming off unclear, shy or insecure?
For me the answer to those questions was...A Lot!
I have been a recurring people pleaser, most of the time unconsciously. It might be in my very DNA. I would do anything to make others happy, to serve them. I want the people around me to be happy, but I had lost sight of myself and what I needed to be joyful. Not knowing that my joy would make those around me happy, just by being authentically ME. The irony of it all!
I was busy doing things to make others happy, while I was dying inside, tired all the time and kinda angry. I was holding back from saying what I felt and meant and it was costing me a lot. I was resenting my very self. There...I said it out loud. I was angry at myself for not standing up for what I needed, wanted and what would make me happy and frankly, I don’t even think I knew what that was for a long period of time. I was so concerned with others. This has been a huge realization for me and something I am still working out with myself and those around me daily!
The truth is it is our very birthright to be joyful. That is exactly what I work with people on in my Pure Light sessions and what my workshop Cultivating Joy: The Art of Manifesting is all about.
There is a great quote by Abraham Hicks: