In the holistic field, we are wellness investigators who must use who, what, where, when, why, and how to help clear a path for optimal wellness to emerge from a client's story. In training, we are often cautioned against going to the “why” well, but I find that most information comes from asking such questions. It is the hardest question for us to answer, because it is a statement of interpretation rather than of fact. I find that how we interpret events creates our habits more than the events themselves.
My clients inform me about human nature and put up a mirror so I can see where in my own life I have exhibited similar behavior. If a client tells me he wants to change and then comes up with excuses, I ask where in my life I have done the same. It reminds me that I am in the tenth year of my wellness journey and that I have hit similar pitfalls as I’ve moved through the world.
In my personal and clinical experience, the “whys” that prevent progress in health become deeply revelatory as we move from external to internal influences. They are: