As individuals and organisms we have an inherent tendency for growth, development and survival. Sometimes this tendency may be held back but never destroyed.
This tendency motivates us to fully realize our potential no matter what the circumstance. For example, flowers embrace light and water to survive and grow, which is why flowers always turn to the light and spread their roots where there is water. This tendency is called ‘actualizing tendency’ and it helps us improve and fully develop our life.
According to this approach, it’s not selfish to seek the best for yourself. It is not selfish to want a life without difficulties, a life full of acceptance and understanding. But it's important to understand that this all starts within. With unconditional positive regard, empathetic understanding, congruence, and authenticity, you have the power to change your life. Maybe the hardest thing is to listen carefully to what your own "self" says to you. We usually ask others the tough questions about what to do and when to do it, but why don't we just listen to our own self? We are the center of our own world and we want the best for ourselves, right? And we all deserve the best for ourselves.
So next time you're in need of an answer, look within rather than someone else.