7 Ways To Embrace Tonight's New Moon In Libra
As the star sign associated with commitment and partnership, alluring Libra's softer vibe is gentle yet diplomatic. We could all find ourselves seeking a little extra harmony in our relationships during Libra season. Make it your personal mission to compromise, since the Libra new moon could initiate pleasant negotiations or sweet heart-to-hearts. These amicable moonbeams will help keep discussions neutral for all.
This year's Libra new moon will be challenged, however, because Venus (the planet that rules Libra) is retrograde from October 5 to November 16. From relationship rifts to exes returning (if not in person, then through dreams or hearsay) to people being rude and uncompassionate, the celestial goddess of grace and goodwill is MIA for her lunar debutante ball—and we'll feel it.
Despite these odds, the new moon in Libra could mark one of 2018's best days for balancing our partnerships. If you thought you were better off alone...think again! The urge to merge is strong all week long—for business, creative coupling, and romantic affairs. Let the negotiations begin! Remember that new moons are starting blocks, so there's no need to rush to the signing table or straight to the altar or contract signing. Take time to choose your other half wisely! The seeds that get planted this week will be harvested under the corresponding full moon in six months' time.
The Libra new moon also marks the halfway point of the annual horoscope cycle, since Libra, the star sign of beauty and balance, is also the zodiac's midpoint sign. It's a time for looking back at what has recently come to pass but also to look ahead. As the seventh sign symbolized by the Scales, we ought to measure our progress using the Libran gift of judgment to craft a thoughtful and balanced plan going forward.
Libra is more than just balancing two opposing forces: It's taking the time to weigh options, to step back from "doing" mode and observe the whole vista ahead before making a move. Libras often get a bad rap as procrastinators, yet the refusal to rush lets Libra savor the moment—a skill we've largely forgotten in today's fast-paced world that's always on the go.
The Libra new moon sounds a wakeup call to take a more considerate approach—to strive for greater mutuality with the people in your life (think: interdependence, not codependence). So spread a little of that good old-fashioned Libra peace, love, and harmony, sprinkling more beauty on every facet of your life.
Here are seven practical rituals to bring more balance and beauty to your life at the 2018 Libra new moon:
1. Reap what you've sown.
Libra is the first autumn zodiac sign, marking the start of fall and harvest season. Take stock of what you've been working on and of where you've put your energy since the spring. Do you like what's growing in your metaphorical garden? If not, plant different seeds.
Libra energy can tempt us to deflect and shift "blame." For example, maybe you were hoping for apples and you got squash. Retrace your steps. There's a good chance it was you who planted those squash seeds. Or maybe you just weren't on top of what was being planted at all. Don't beat yourself up about it. Identify where the U-turn happened, deal with it, and then course-correct. If you've kept a calendar or journal, review it to see where you've been spending your time and energy. That can be incredibly telling.
For instance: If you wanted more money in the bank and it's just not there, or you hoped to move but you're still staring at the same four walls, look at where you've been directing your attention. Did you get consumed by menial tasks or sidetracked by personal drama? Untangle yourself from anything that doesn't bear the fruit you're craving to cultivate. Then be super-intentional about what you take on from here as you move forward.
2. Just say "maybe!"
Feeling pressured to make a decision? Refuse to cave. At the Libra new moon, it's OK to wait and see. If you're applying the heat to someone else, simmer down. "No" simply might mean "no...for now." Sometimes, when a "no" is heard and honored, it can turn into a "yes" down the line. Let go of all agendas today.
3. Choose a fresh go-to look.
Style can be stressful when you're busy, and dressing up can even feel like another part-time job. That extra hour of matching, accessorizing, makeup application, and blow-drying can be a real weight on an already overloaded schedule.
Libra is ruled by Venus, the planet of art, beauty, and sensuality, which began a six-week retrograde backspin on October 5. The Libra new moon reminds us that taking time to adorn yourself can be pleasurable, even a ritual escape from all the intense, achievement-focused energy of the day. It may seem frivolous when you're driving kids to practice, cramming for finals, or hammering away at a massive deadline. But this Libra new moon insists that you're worth the extra time!
But are time challenges making you style-strained? Consider creating a "uniform"—a simple, go-to combo—to cut down stress when you face your closet. Like: structured top, jeans, boots…GO! Or: scoop-neck shirt, leggings, flats, colorful bag, DONE.
At the Libra new moon, give yourself a little style overhaul. This is especially recommended during Venus retrograde, which is a great time to declutter your closet and maybe hold a clothing/decor/art swap with friends. Enlist a fashion-savvy pal to help. What can you toss or donate? If need be, pull your whole wardrobe out, lay it on the bed, and assess. Libra knows best: When you look good, you feel good. You carry yourself with more confidence, and your energy attracts opportunity. You communicate your personality to the world through your style.
4. Embrace the art of diplomacy.
Libra rules the zodiac's seventh house of committed partnerships. It's all about balancing between "me" and "we" and finding terms that work for everyone. The Libra new moon gifts us with diplomacy, so we can truly step in the other person's shoes to understand his/her needs. During these ever-polarizing political times, we may not be able to do this, especially when the news headlines leave us feeling more upset, enraged, and helpless by the hour. How can we move through grief and outrage with grace? That will be the Libra lunar challenge.
In less-charged scenarios, the Libra new moon can help us hash things out, be great listeners, and create a win-win wherever we can. There are your needs, the other person's needs, and also the greater needs of the relationship, which is like a third entity. Lay those all out on the table and assess. Just know your limits. Sometimes, trying to please everyone can mean pleasing no one in the end.
5. Revamp your relationships.
The Libra new moon brings a cosmic reboot to the realm of relationships. Even the single-and-loving-it types may feel a sudden urge to merge or at least to find a little more companionship in their lives. Couples: Lay down your swords and put a stop to the lovers' quarrels. This new moon helps us to compromise, cooperate, and co-create. This may require some outside support like a mediator, coach, or couple's therapist, but finding that middle ground is the name of the game. Are we effectively sending out signals when we want our partners to pay attention to us?
John Gottman, the author of The Relationship Cure, did extensive research on what he calls "bids for connection," the verbal and nonverbal cues we send out to our partners in a desire to connect and keep the relationship flowing along. Our ability to communicate our desires and needs in a loving way is essential to a healthy relationship. According to Gottman, happy couples will place their "bids" up to 100 times in a 10-minute span. Also helpful: Read up on attachment theory and discover your attachment style. Do you tend to be anxious, secure, or avoidant? How about the people you gravitate toward?
6. Beautify your surroundings.
Libra, the ultimate love goddess and aesthete, prompts you to beautify something, even if it's the tiniest touch. Buy flowers for your dining room table and bedroom. Invest in the nicer bottle of wine. Buy that turquoise ring from a street vendor. Paint an accent wall in your home. Arrange an eye-pleasing tablescape on your desk. Pretty takes you far now—and fends off some of the ugliness of Venus retrograde, which can be a time when all the cracks, flaws, grime, and grit really starts to show up.
7. Strike a mind-body balance.
When your mind is all over the map, use your body to bring back the balance. Do a few sun salutations or head to a class where you can work it all out on the mat. Here are a few partner yoga poses for Libra season to help you bring balance back to your body—and become a little bit closer to your partner, too. Mindfulness practices can certainly come in handy anytime you're seeking a healthy dose of that trademark Libran calm.