I realized a few years ago in my own life that there was an easier way to achieve all of my goals. That it did not have to all be so damn hard. I was raised in a family with a protestant work ethic so I revered hard work and achievement. I was never unhappy working hard. As my career exploded I became more constricted and stressed about time management and that did negatively affect all aspects of my life. I was under the illusion that time was happening to me and there never seemed to be enough of it. Since I did not realize I had a choice, I felt un-empowered to change.
The beginning of becoming un-constricted, more joyful and more successful came with a committed meditation practice. This created space, possibility and relief in my mind, body and life. Along with meditation the incorporation of present moment consciousness accelerated my happiness and success.
What makes up the quality of your life is your daily existence, not only the peek experiences or significant epiphanies. It is my belief from observation and experience that the connection between, being constricted/fearful and NOT having the life of your dreams float into your lap like a feather, is direct and undeniable. So let’s get to how this can impact your life. Choose from the list below to get clarity on what constricts you on a daily basis.
List of Daily Constrictors:
- Not enough time
- Not enough money
- Unsatisfying job, marriage, health, financial life, social life, and family life
List of Alternate Actions and Feeling States:
- Bust out Lavender oil. Take 3 deep breaths. Release.
- Repeat Mantra, “I have exactly the right amount of time.” Breathe and release.
- (Create what works for you.)
The above exercise is one small action that will create change if you do it. This is not to say that deep breathing will fix your marriage, your job or shut your co-worker up. It is to say that being constricted makes all of those situations worse and robs you of your present moment joy. It comes as a total surprise to most clients that they can choose their feeling state in most situations. Your feelings are not happening to you. If you choose to stay constricted with excuses and justifications, it is still a choice. Changing conditioned responses can be challenging just like anything else worthwhile. You don’t get the ass of your dreams by going to the gym once.
So I challenge you to try this exercise and see what happens in your life. Open your mind and your heart to the transformative power of your intention. Take it from this former Type A constricted control freak, if I can become un-constricted and joyfully present in my life, so can you.
So here’s to Flipping Over and Floating and the joyful abundance that comes with it.