Flip through the pages of a few men’s magazines and you're likely to find something written about what it means to be a man. Most often, it’s from the perspective of being tough, being strong, being macho. Rarely is there anything said about being kind, caring, and least of all vulnerable.
Vulnerability has gotten a bad rap. The idea has been perpetuated that vulnerability equates to weakness, so men feel the need to put up a front. If you desire sex or a relationship, the message is to avoid vulnerability and work on that stoic appeal.
But I'd like to propose something different—that vulnerability is nothing like what you’ve been taught. What if vulnerability is actually one of the keys to having everything you’ve ever wanted?
Here's the thing: People are drawn to vulnerability. It’s authentic. It's inviting. It's attractive. Vulnerability is sexy.
Still not convinced? These truths about vulnerability will change the way you see everything.
Everything you achieve by being someone you aren't will dissolve. Only being entirely you can invite the life you truly desire to come into being.
There are a lot of people who would tell you that in order be somebody in this world, in order to be successful and to be important, in order to win and not lose, you have to create an image. An image is something that you portray, that you try to get people to see you as, which is actually the antithesis of vulnerability.
Here’s the trouble with image: When you create anything based on an image, whether it be family, business, relationship, money, fame, your body, or anything else, to maintain and uphold these things, you have to maintain and uphold your image. That’s a lot of work and you give up so much of you in the process.
Vulnerability is the willingness to have and be all of you. In vulnerability you stop pretending, you come out of hiding, and you start to choose what actually works for you rather than trying to live up to the right and wrong of other people’s opinions.
Releasing judgment of self and others allows our infinite potential to develop. This is the true meaning of vulnerability.
Have you ever been around someone who didn’t judge you? Have you ever been around someone who was in total support of you and your choices, no matter what? It makes you feel like your potential has no limits. You have total potency, total power, total capacity. Vulnerability judges nothing.
Gratitude is the antidote to judgment. You can’t be in judgment and gratitude at the same time, so practice gratitude. Every day, write down three to five things that you are grateful for. Include what you are grateful for about you! After a few days of practicing gratitude, you will find that everything begins to flow more easily.
When you choose to be vulnerable with the people in your life, things start to change. The things that you have been seeking, the things you desire, start to show up. Why? It’s simple, really. Vulnerability is about you being you. Vulnerability is about dropping all barriers. When you choose vulnerability rather than trying to force things to happen, the things you desire easily come to you. You become the invitation to something greater. Vulnerability really is the new sexy.