I once spent a whole year publicly committed to loving fearlessly. Every month I gave myself a challenge. I hugged strangers, performed acts of mushy, unabashed gratitude, left anonymous notes of encouragement in unexpected places. I blogged about my activities, and over the course of that year, others joined me. By the end, there were people loving more fearlessly all over the world.
I learned so much during that year, but the thing that surprised me most was how much easier it was for people to turn their love outward. They had no trouble writing love letters and performing random acts of kindness—until I asked them to redirect that loving attention to themselves. I was incredibly saddened to see how people struggled to show themselves the same sweetness and patience they so willingly showed to others.