Here at mindbodygreen, we're all about holistic wellness—that means we don't just focus on how we eat or move—we explore the implications of how we live and how we love on our happiness and well-being. As often as we discuss these things on their own, we don't often dig into the cross-section of our lifestyle choices and our relationships.That's what we love about Clean My Space—Melissa Maker's book about how to create a space that promotes health, happiness, and harmony (without driving yourself crazy). With that in mind, here are Melissa's tips on how to navigate the minefield of cleaning with another person—whether that's your significant other, your sister, or your roommate. Follow this advice, and you might (dare we say it?) come out of the process closer than ever.
When I talk to people about cleaning, they'll often share with me that they have challenges managing cleaning with their partner (spouse, roommate, sibling). If you find it challenging to get family members to help out, here are some ideas for how you can approach the topic. Just remember, having a heated conversation where blame is involved will make the other party feel defensive. Just like with any discussion, you'll have a better shot at making the other party feel safe by speaking if you speak from a place of "me" and "my needs," not "you" and what "you should" be doing that "you aren't" (see the diff?).
This may start off as a bit of a crunchy conversation, but in my experience, both parties tend to walk away much happier when it's over. Have a kind, honest conversation by following these steps.