I forced myself to think of things that've been useful for me and to present them in a way that would benefit an audience. I pecked a few keys at first. Then I strung together a few sentences. Soon I had penned a flourish of ideas that presented a plan to reclaim one's health through diet, as I've done.
When I sealed the article with my final period, I felt pride beaming from my chest. I thought about how difficult it was to get started, how easy it would've been to just not show up to work. But I did. And I've never felt prouder of myself. I've never felt more professional or worthy of claiming my title as a writer.
I thought back to similarly defining moments: times when I sacrificed a creature comfort to pay my bills on time; times when I forgave someone instead of holding a grudge; times when I put the needs of others before my own. All of those decisions have led me to become the man I am today—and the brother, and the friend, and the son.
I've never regretted doing the right things. Because even when I don't seem to benefit immediately, there's always that flicker of pride. And that pride helps me to feel confident in myself. And that confidence emboldens me to make even harder decisions. And those decisions are the reason I'm happy and successful.
I haven't always been like this. My decisions used to be calculated for a maximum of ease and a minimum of discomfort. But that approach didn't get me far.
I couldn't maintain a relationship for more than a year, or a job, or any positive change. When I turned 25, I was living on my mom's couch—the embarrassed owner of an unremarkable life. I didn't have the mortgage or the marriage or the money that my peers had. I didn't have any of their confidence either. But I did have one trait in common:
I had the same ability to make good decisions. And when I started getting into self-improvement, I learned from people like Tony Robbins and Zig Ziglar how to increase my likelihood of making good decisions. One of the biggest tips that helped me transition to a life of good decisions was this: