Another New Year's Eve has passed; are we halfway through January already? How are those resolutions treating you? It's easy to make a grand plan to change your entire life on December 31, but it's much more difficult to stick to it. And as time flies by and the days seem to get shorter and shorter, I can't tell you how many of my patients have already called me to tell me they've fallen off the resolution train or can't remember what they resolved in the first place. I tell them not to beat themselves up.
Almost half of Americans made resolutions this year, but less than one in ten people will actually achieve them. Practically speaking, that's clearly not a very good return on investment. January is still an important time to reflect on your life, but save yourself the unnecessary stress of trying to keep up with those well-intended (but unrealistic) resolutions. They don't work. And it's because while most of us have good intentions, there's a big difference between intention and commitment. Intentions are thoughts, words, and deeds we would like to do. Commitments are thoughts, words, and deeds we actually show up and do—consistently.