"I've gained 20 pounds in the last five years," "I feel gross," or "I wish I look like I used to." I hear these types of comments often. And now that it's January (when seasonal weight gain tends to be a popular topic), I'd like to challenge the societal construct that we should work harder and be hard on ourselves in an effort to look how we used to or to look differently.
I am not saying that we should all give up on physical activity or working to better ourselves, but why not increase curiosity about alternate ways of thinking and viewing our bodies? By thinking more about the topic and observing our typical thought patterns mindfully, we can change our point of view altogether.