I read the following quote recently and cringed a little: "Show up as who you'd like to become, not as who you've been" ~ Unknown
Let's face it: plenty of people can show up as who they'd like to become, but are they showing up authentically?
Plenty could transform into that "ideal hero", falsely pleasing their partner, until ultimately they quit out of sheer exhaustion. Trying to be someone you are not is difficult to maintain.
When I think of "showing up as who you'd like to become, not as who you've been”, I wonder:
Will you show up as a true, veritable version of who you really want to be? Not a fantasy, not someone else's idea of a great partner, co-worker, friend or lover....I mean show up as the most expanded, evolved version of you!
Who You've Been
We've all made relationship mistakes in the past.
Maybe you chose partners who squelched your growth. Maybe you picked partners who were painfully similar to your parents or caregivers because that was most familiar. Maybe you even tolerated abuse, harsh criticism, or deceit.
Interestingly, the common denominator in the stories of our past is YOU, and who you have been.