Not too long ago I had my heart crushed. It was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I don't ever wish for it to happen again, but it was a tremendous opportunity for me to learn about myself. This week, we are even more focused than usual on gratitude. And that makes this week—one filled with friends, family, and reflection—the perfect time to consider all the lessons we can be thankful we've learned from those who've loved and left us.
See, we tend to date partners who reflect something about ourselves to us. Sometimes that thing is hidden, and other times it's obvious. But if we choose not to face the issue(s) being reflected our way, the same issues will come up in future relationships. Only when we learn to dig deep enough to reach the root can we actually dissolve it.
Breakups are a beautiful opportunity for us to learn more about who we really are. Knowing that is a crucial prerequisite to knowing what you need and want from a partner. Allow yourself to grieve your loss, and be gentle with yourself in the process. But don't miss out on this opportunity for growth.
When your heart is so shattered that you find yourself questioning everything, there is no safety blanket to hide under. It's terrifying, and it can be ugly, but starting from scratch gives you more room for growth than almost anything.
Here are a few things that helped me stay rooted in gratitude for the loss of my relationship and for the opportunity it allows me to grow: