I've always been fascinated by people's pet peeves. And because I believe every issue stems from whatever small and large things happened to us as children, I've become accustomed to realizing I'm annoyed and then immediately trying to determine why some seemingly tiny thing angers me so much.
After years of analyzing my own behavior, it occurred to me that the minuscule annoyances we tend to ignore are affecting our lives more than we realize. I knew that by yanking them out of my subconscious and trying to get to their gritty underbelly, I had taught myself to respond differently, and I wanted to see if that could work for other people.
So, I started asking people about their pettiest issues in a podcast. And over the past six months of recording these interviews, I've realized that almost all our anger over seemingly little things is usually tied to a few major fears. I've broken down three of them here, along with advice from Dr. Josh Lichtman, a Buddhist psychiatrist and the medical director at Refuge Recovery in LA, about how to handle them when they arise.