Five simple words.
“It is tough being tiny.” That’s all it took to bring me back to the present moment, see the big picture and to look at the world through the eyes of my young daughter. My husband said those five words when our daughter was less than a year old, tenderly commenting on a challenge typical of the age, piling blocks or turning pages in a book. Those five simple words ended up becoming our unofficial guiding principle for parenting our daughters. Our parenting mantra. Like a reset button when the days are long, the emotions start to run high, and the little things that can set everyone off. “It is tough being tiny” was our instant reminder that this isn’t about us adults and whether or not we feel this event requires tears. It’s a reminder to be here in this moment with our daughter, seeing how real the challenge is in her world, and how to guide her through it. That swift change of perspective is the power of a mantra.
We all have mantras. Those things we say to ourselves over and over, sometimes without even realizing it. They influence how we think, what we say, what we do and how we do it. In the intense journey of parenthood, they can shape the way we shape our precious little ones. Thankfully, we each have within us the ability to create ones that optimize our innate power to clear out the mental chaos and ground ourselves in the present.