We are all a product of our life experiences—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Over time we begin to accumulate experiences—some that serve us, and some that sabotage us. We try to suppress or ignore the unpleasant experiences. As part of suppressing these memories, many times we numb ourselves to the emotions associated with them, and, over time, they begin to accumulate and compound until finally we can no longer carry the emotional weight any longer.
Has this happened to you? Have you had an exaggerated reaction to someone or something in your life because you were carrying an emotional burden of suppressed emotions? To avoid this, we have to make sure to do some emotional unpacking along the way. Experiences can become our story, define our path, and determine the course of our lives. If we do not create time and space to process, feel, heal, and let go of emotions, we can become stuck. You are not your stories. They are just your experience.
It's easy to move forward when we're surrounded by positive stories, but what about the negative stories? The ones that cause us pain? We don't like to look at these. We avoid them. And the more we shove them to the back of our minds, the heavier the burden gets, and the harder it becomes to move forward.
Emotional avoidance is a pandemic. We somehow decided that we didn't have time, that it wasn't professional or cool to feel, or that we were just too engaged in pushing through to the next big goal or milestone to stop and process. Or maybe we've given up.
We have to make time to heal, to feel, and to let go. This is an uncomfortable process. But we have to become unstuck and allow ourselves some vulnerability so that we can grow and evolve.