When I was in the throes of all-over-the-place eating, I had a closet full of different-size clothes. There were two sections in my closet: my skinny wardrobe and my heavier wardrobe.
On one side there was an itty-bitty black dress that I could squeeze into when I was dieting, the jeans that were the smallest size I'd ever bought, and the romper that looked good only if I was thin (in my mind, anyway).
On the other side of my closet were the clothes I wore when I gained weight. I had baggier shirts, jeans that were a few sizes bigger than my usual, and outfits that hid my heavier frame.
When my eating began to normalize, I stopped bingeing/restricting, and my weight balanced out; I still kept my "skinny" clothes in my closet in the hopes that I would someday fit into them.
Although I was at a very normal size for my frame, I didn't stop fantasizing about fitting into those jeans, that dress, and the romper. Every time I went into my closet, the critical, disapproving thoughts would start:
You COULD be skinnier if you tried!
You know, if you just worked harder, you could fit into these clothes again.
You aren't going to look good unless you fit back into these shorts.
I kept trying the clothes on, wondering if they would ever fit me again.
They served as a painful reminder that I wasn't at my skinniest. (And for so many years, being skinny meant being enough, so it essentially reminded me of my "not-enough-ness" every time I got dressed.)
Even though I had come so far on my road to "normal" eating, the clothes kept pulling me back to my failures and a path I didn't want to go back down.
I was sick and tired of letting clothes have power over me! So I decided to take ALL of my "skinny" clothes, put them in a bag, and donate them to Goodwill.
This was not an easy thing to do. I felt like I was admitting failure; that I wasn’t ever going to be as thin as that ever again. This was a difficult lesson for me, as I was so attached to those clothes as being my "best" size.
But you know what it DID do for me?
It gave me my sanity back. It allowed me to focus on my progress, my achievements, and how far I've come. It reminded me that I CAN wear clothes where I am now and feel confident in the body I have.
So, how can you feel more comfortable in your body without dieting, without doing 101 affirmations a day, and without really doing any work at all?
You MUST revamp your wardrobe and make sure you do these two things: